When life’s inevitable stresses come our way, do we control our emotions or do our emotions control us?. Emotions can’t be suppressed or turned off. They are part of lives whether we like them or not, and sometimes trying to get rid of them just strengthens their power over us. But our emotions are not who we are. We have feelings, but those feelings don’t need to define us. The Mishna in Ethics of the Fathers teaches us four ways we can manage our emotions so that our feelings are not controlling or defining us.